What I would like to do is present a few caretaker personalities that you can adopt to work in the world and to have fun and to be joyous with. These are uniforms that you wear, clothing that you put on and that you also take off.  Wear that caretaker personality which is apropos, which is appropriate, for what you are doing.  Don't be afraid to be creative and change these caretaker personalities.  Modify them as you will and you'll find that they tend to modify themselves in time.

I'm suggesting that you be an architect of your own being, that just as you can choose your clothes, so in advanced yoga and meditation, you learn to choose your personalities.  This occurs when you have the realization that the personality is not really your real self, but just like your clothing, a transitory experience.

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Don't feel that you have to be stuck with the personality you've got now because as you meditate you'll watch is dissolve and go away. But you do need a personal form to deal with the world. I suggest that you adopt, on an alternating basis, the caretaker personality of the child and the warrior and then, after many, many years of meditation, that you try some of the other more advanced caretaker personality forms.  

Whenever you have the opportunity, however, push all the forms away and be the formless. When you have the chance, let all those different selves wash away, whether it's the caretaker personality of the teacher, of the student, the warrior, the child, the sage, self-sacrifice, the witness, whatever it may be. There are many, many of them. Let them fall away and just be that eternal essence that you are. Sit in meditation and be absorbed. Be absorbed beyond time, place or condition.  Let the radiant light of existence be you. Be absorbed in eternity, beyond time, place, suffering. Be absorbed in life. And then use the caretaker personalities as an artist uses colors to paint beautiful pictures.

 - "The Caretaker Personality", The Lakshmi Series