You need to learn to live with all of the divergent selves inside yourself, happily. You need to start out and make friends with all of your different selves.  And it's good if they can all like each other, because otherwise it's very difficult. If different parts of your being are at war with each other, it's very hard to follow the spiritual process. Because part of the spiritual process is all of your many selves, and there are so many of them and they are so variegated, learning to like each other and get along harmoniously with each other.  Tolerance and acceptance of yourself; to learn to love each of your selves: the happy, self-giving self, the pure and humble self, the selfish self, the slothful self, and the self that you don't know yet, all of the sides of your being. To learn to love and embrace them all.
 
The question is, of course, who is loving and who is embracing? The deeper self. The deeper self is love. You can tell that it's the deeper self when you've arrived at that level of tolerance, who is acting through you at that moment. You've reached a deeper strata.

- "Consciousness, Expansion and Desire", Live in L.A.