The way you overcome attraction and aversions is by going to another condition which has little to do with both, which is wakefulness.  In that wakefulness, you see beyond attraction and aversion.  You can see that they're just operative forces in the universe that you can sidestep.

The best way to deal with desire and aversion is to push them away.  To cut to the chase, if I may here, we all know what we should be - I believe that - we just don't listen.  But we know we should be terribly humble, completely consistent, and that we should strive to enter the light.

What's necessary is a very integrated humility, wherein we just are who we are and we do what we do and there's a sense of peace to it, a stillness.  It's not necessary to impress others or to impress ourselves.  Rather, what's most important is to integrate ourselves with the light, to lead a type of life that does that.  And some people may understand it or not, it really doesn't matter.  It's not an audience participation situation.  Rather, what we're doing is just seeking to find the still point in the middle of all the turning worlds, simply because we like that, we know that that's where we belong.But if we get hooked up with people who do feel that [it's not necessary], we can pick up their desires, their consciousness, and they distract us from that which is most important to us and that which is real, for us.  Reality is personal.

- Tantric Buddhism, Buddhism