So in your quest for enlightenment, the most important thing is to try and get beyond desire, because desire causes hate.  If it were not for desire, there would be very little happening in the world.  Desire is inevitable.  Desire is intrinsic to a body and a mind.  But when you identify too much with your desires, which means you don't just let them go by but you get stuck in them, they pull you places.  And when they pull you someplace - there you are.

We seek absolute neutrality in Buddhism.  Complete neutrality.  We don't want to be drawn to anything in particular; we don't want to be pushed away from anything in particular.  We want life itself to select where we should be and what we should be at any given moment, knowing that life will always make the ultimate choice in the matter - the best choice - whereas we with our limited perception will probably make all kinds of mistakes.  But since life created us and created all of this, obviously it knows what it's doing and it knows how the system works.

- Tantric Buddhism, Buddhism